Let’s talk about the word “Commitment.”

Today I was reading an article about marriage and love/sex addiction on http://www.pschycology.com    Several times throughout the article it mentioned the word commitment.  Stating that both parties in a relationship need to be fully committed and even more important when infidelity is involved.

All our life we hear this word. Commit to school, commit to your job, commit to your paper, etc. We are always asked for our commitment.   Ever since I first found out my Husband cheated, my whole world turned upside down and has never been the same since.  Same with the word commitment being used for marriage. Commitment will never mean the same thing to me, especially after this recent D-Day.

Yeah sure I can give it my commitment.  He can say he is committed but it doesn’t mean diddly shit. I have always gave it my all and I always will. But in all reality commitment is a one-way street. Using the word commitment for a marriage sounds like there is a mutual feeling.  You have no idea if your partner is going to return the commitment even if they say they are.  Of course, you are showing commitment.  You know yourself.  You never know others. I thought I knew my husband through and through.  This is how betrayal hurts so much.  We rely on someone else when we need to be relying on ourselves.

It all comes down to having a commitment to yourself and hope in turn your partner appreciates that, and you appreciate their commitment to themselves. This makes for two happy people in a relationship.

Nobody has your back like you do!

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An Empath with no Compassion? Oh yes! You bet!

There have been times in my past and more recently that I have been told to have more compassion.  I guess some feel they have the right since I am a known as a highly intuitive empath, highly sensitive person, I.N.J.F., light worker, energy worker, healer, psychic, or whatever you would like to call it. I guess some would assume I am more compassionate then most people.  Well, I have also been called a witch.  So, there is that. My life experiences have taught me to distinguish between good and bad people.  If you are a serial killer, I have no empathy.  If you destroy families, no empathy.  See how that works.

I have had a recent accusation of not showing empathy. This person is a homewrecker and knowingly slept with a married man.    “You have no idea what I have been through”, is what she wrote.  No matter what you have gone through there is no excuse for you to be a shitty human being, ever. So yes lady, I have no compassion or empathy for you. None.  Even more so since you claim to have been the betrayed partner in the past.  You knew damn well what you were doing.

OTHER WOMAN, HOMEWRECKERS, SKANKS, ETC., LISTEN UP!  It is never okay to reach out to the betrayed spouse.  EVER!  There are a few exceptions to this rule, but it is never okay to initiate first contact. EVER! I am also gong point out the obvious since most of these women are half brained.  IT IS NEVER OKAY TO HAVE RELATIONS OF ANY KIND WITH A MARRIED MAN. IF IT IS OVER, MOVE ON DOWN THE ROAD!  

For all my fellow empaths, never let anybody tell you how you should feel about them.  Your impression is always right!  Trust that intuition! 

What do you want to be when you grow up?

I was thinking of a good journal prompt for tomorrows Daily Journal Prompt @ https://infidelityrecovery.support/daily-journal-writing-prompt/ It got me thinking about what I wanted to be when I was a child? What were my aspirations? What did I want to do when I got big?

Often times as adults we forget what we really want and what will really make us happy. We get caught up in raising kids, our jobs, and our relationships.

When I was young I had a lot of dreams. I wanted to be a veterinarian and a physical therapist. I wanted to travel to Kenya. I loved river rafting when I was a little. When I grew up I wanted to be a river raft guide and travel as much as I could and go rafting down as many rivers as possible.

Getting back in touch with my inner child has reminded me that i am a little lost. It is okay because like a child I will adapt but in the meantime I am going to figure out how I can get at least some of my childhood dreams accomplished. So hopefully one day you will be reading a blog about my adventures river rafting.

Please feel free to share what your dreams as a child were?